Seeing Through the Fog

Have you ever experienced brain fog? Where your mind, thoughts, just everything seems foggy and distant. The moment where you’re sat with your friends yet you don’t really feel like your there. As if your looking through a fog. You know you’re there yet you don’t feel like you are, you can’t engage with them like you normally would. Everything just feels strange and not quite right.

For the past few days I have had brain fog. I’ve felt so distracted from things which are right in front of me, I haven’t been able to concentrate on anything. I’ve been feeling a bit down and sad, and normally I know how to make myself feel better yet at the moment I just can’t do it. I know what I need to do but I just can’t do it. It’s such a strange feeling, like I don’t have enough energy to do it.

The same thing has been happening with my life in general. I’ve been feeling suck and I know what I need to do to get myself out of this but I just can’t do it, I don’t feel up to it. I just sit there staring into this distance. I feel like I can’t do anything even though I know I can. I’m lost in the fog of my mind.

I would now normally write about how to overcome this feeling/problem or what I do to make myself better but today I’m not going to do that as I’m still in my fog. However I thought I would still share this experience with you, as other people might be going through the same thing and if you are, you are not alone.

If you guys have any tips of how you get out of your brain fog, let me know in the comments and I’ll be sure to try it.

Thanks for reading.

Adele’s Word

XOXO

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Me Time

Me time is so important. Spending time by yourself can be really beneficial, you can truly unwind, relax and sort through your thoughts. The other day I told my friend I was going for coffee, she replied ‘What, by yourself?’ I replied saying ‘Yeah, why?’ She told me how she wouldn’t go for coffee by herself, she would get a takeaway, but she wouldn’t sit in a coffee shop alone. This got me thinking, why do some people find it strange to spend time by themselves? While I was sat in the coffee shop with my vanilla latte I looked around there were lots of people by themselves reading and relaxing, they all looked content.

Recently I’ve begun to understand the importance of me time. Time to stop, think, relax and being able to enjoy your own company. We all need me time, I know sometimes its hard to find the time we all have busy lives but even if its just 5 minutes its so important. Its so good for us all to be by ourselves and more importantly to be happy by ourselves. It doesn’t matter if your single, in a relationship, married etc, we all need me time, just to stop. Sometimes we can be running around so quickly and doing so much for other people that we lose touch of ourselves and all of a sudden being alone can seem scary.

For all of us, sometimes, being alone is scary. Especially if your going through a hard time, having all those thoughts running through your head can just seem to much. But if your distracting yourself all the time because you don’t want to think about theses things it doesn’t make them go away, it just means your putting it off. We need to deal with theses thoughts even if it’s just a little at a time, it is better for you in the long run. Sometimes distracting yourself is good, you just want to forget which is totally fine. But you don’t want theses thoughts to effect your future either.

This is why ‘Me Time’ is so important. Being home, having a bath, relaxing, being in a safe place thinking through your thoughts, does you good in the long run. Try not to overthink, so you worry yourself, get a balance where you work through your thoughts in a beneficial way. Even just clearing your mind of all thoughts can be just as good. If this still seems to hard then just be by yourself but do an activity like going for a walk, listening to music, yoga, reading ect. It’ just important for us to be able to spend time with ourselves and this not to seem odd or strange. Obviously having coffee with your friends is better then by yourself but sometimes its nice doing these things by yourself. Just don’t be afraid to be on your own. The more you do it, the better it is. Your thoughts don’t seem so scary and it’s nice being able to go at your own pace.

This is what I’ve found anyway, we are all different, but for me I found that having me time has helped me overcome some hard times and I feel like I now really know myself, I know what I’m thinking and feeling. I feel happier with myself, both mentally and physically.

Leave me a comment and let me know how you spend your ‘Me Time’ and enjoy it.

Adele’s Word

XOXO 81dc933ff6a257c11e0e321922325ef5

Spring has Sprung

Forget the whole ‘new year, new you’ thing. Today is the first day of spring, this is the time for change. Spring is a time of new birth and flowers appearing from the dirt. Lets take this tip from nature and know that we must go through the dirt and darkness to see the light and the happier times which followers and that time is now. This spring holds new opportunities for us all. I personally love this time of the year, everything seems so fresh and new, we can all make a new start. So, if your like me and the new year wasn’t quite as great as everyone makes out, then join me in making the most of spring. Let the sunny morning inspire you and the long evenings encourage you.

I believe this spring is going to be great for us all. I’m going to stay positive and bloom! I have lots to look forward to; I’m starting a new job, I have plans for weekends away and lots of other exciting things. I hope this spring brings around good things for you too. Lets start this spring of by springing into action.I’m feeling motivated and ready to take on the world. Join me and invite spring to help break from the darkness of winter and let’s start to blossom together.

Spring has sprung!

Adele’s Word

XOXO

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Humble and Kind

Humble and Kind. These words are so important, especially in the world which we live. Staying grounded seems harder than ever, with everyone posting on social media about their ‘perfect’ lives, we can get carried away with our own importance. Staying humble means knowing your own worth but also knowing that its no greater than anyone else. To realize the good things which you have in your life and to be thankful, but not to think that this makes you better than anyone. I like to think that we all do our best to stay humble and kind, even when life is hard on us. That is why I have decide to write this blog post about my experience on staying humble and kind when times are hard.

In the last couple of months, well years really, life has dealt me a pretty shitty hand. I have dealt with so much shit it just seems unfair sometimes. I get to that stage where I just want to scream. I would think, this just isn’t fair why is this happening to me? We all have theses moments in our lives, our emotions get the best of us and we crack, rightly so in may cases, sometimes we need to just let it out and be angry at the world. But this state of mind in the long haul isn’t going to help us get through these hard times. What has always helped me is thinking how lucky I am, trying to keep perspective on the situation. We are all blessed in one way or another. Sometimes it’s hard to see but we are, we are here for a start. For me I have a family who care about me, great friends, a roof over my head and food on the table. I am lucky. Some people don’t have this. Someone is always worse of then us.

I lost my dad 2 years ago, when I was 21. This was obviously one of the hardest times of my life. But what got me through it was knowing I was lucky enough to have 21 years with him. There are so many people who don’t even get this. I am lucky that I had my dad for 21 years and that I had someones who is so hard to say goodbye to. I am lucky. At the time obviously this was hard to see but I always told myself that someone has it worse then me, I had a dad who loved me more than the world and I have 21 years of memories with him. I found this the best way to look at the situation. Yes it was a shit situation and I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone, but I was still lucky. I still had things to be thankful for.

I think it’s so important to realize how lucky we are and focus on this, even when we feel like we have lost everything and life is just utter shit there is good somewhere. If you look hard enough there is something to be grateful for and and there is someone worse off than you and they still have a smile on their face. This is what has kept me grounded, knowing that life could always be worse and others do have it worse then me. We are all on a journey and sometimes that journey takes us through shitty places but if we stay positive, hold on to a little bit of hope and keep a clear perspective, that it could be worse. We will get through it. You can do it. Your journey will carry on, you will get out of this shitty place and you will get to a better place in the future. It’s through the hard times that we learn, about ourselves and the people who surround us. As much as I would never want to go though the bad times again, I am grateful to them, they have made be the person I am today. They have given me perspective of what is important in life and shown me who is truly there for me. Sometimes the bad has to happen so we can see the good.

Things will get better. They always do. But for now….

Stay humble and kind.

Adele’s Word

XOXO

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Finding your Purpose.

Recently I’ve been feeling lost. Unattached from everything. I’m not really sure why I’ve been feeling so lost. I’ve got great friends, family and boyfriend but maybe I was expecting more from life by now. When I was younger I think I thought I would have a house by now and my dream job, without realizing the concept of money and how hard it is to actually get any job, let alone your dream job. I don’t always feel lost, when I’m with my friends I don’t feel lost but maybe this is just because I’m distracted. When I’m at home thinking I become lost. Lost in my own thoughts. Lost in life.

This evening I realized why I feel so lost. I feel lost because I’ve lost sight of my Purpose. I don’t feel like I have a purpose. Of course this isn’t true, we all have a purpose, but I’ve lost sight of mine. I think this would make anyone feel lost. Maybe I identified with my job as being my purpose or going back to university to do my master, but now I don’t have either of these to focus on, I’m left feeling purposeless. No-one should feel like this. We all have purpose. So lets stop and take time to think, what is our purpose?

What are you passionate about? What makes you feel alive, what gets you excited, gets your heart beating, what do you love doing? Maybe its; Make-up, Fashion, Working with children, Reading, People, Caring, meditation, music? It can be anything. For me its helping people, I love knowing I’ve had an impact in someones life and knowing that I have hopefully made their life a little bit better.

So, if we can identify our passion then we can identity our purpose. What we are passionate about is our purpose! It might not seem obvious right now, but if we follow our passions then slowly we will see we are living our lives with purpose. This could mean posting a blog post, going to work, applying for a new job, playing your guitar, becoming a mother. It could be anything. If you do what you love and follow your passion then your life has a purpose. It doesn’t have to be your job, it can be a hobby, it can really be anything. Everyday we need to realize our purpose and get out of bed wanting to carry it out, doing it for ourselves. Don’t lose touch of your passion, as I’ve just experience if you lose touch of your passion than you lose touch of your purpose and that can make you feel very lost. Now I’ve reminded myself of my purpose, its down to me to live it out.

For some it might be harder to identity what your passion is. Just take some time to think in the day, think what makes you excited, what do you love doing? If you’re still having trouble ask you friends and family. You might have more than one passion, your passion and purpose might change over time, which is totally normal. Just remember that feeling of being passionate, that love of something, don’t let feeling go. Build your life around that feeling. As long as you know your purpose, your never feel truly lost.

Adele’s Word.

XOXO

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Hope, When life seems Dull

Do you ever feel like everything just seems dull? Well today I had one of those days, where life just seemed’Dull’. I woke up thinking ‘This week is going to my week’, I was thinking positively and I was ready for the week. I went into town looking for a birthday card for my auntie, while I was stood in the middle of WHSmiths when a wave of sadness overcame me, everything after that was dull. I was overwhelmed by emotions. I tried to ignore it, I carried on shopping, went for coffee and rang my mum trying to distract myself. Thinking this feeling would just go away and I could go back to feeling positive. But I soon realized that this feeling wasn’t going anywhere. That one thought, that one moment had changed my mood for the rest of the day and I couldn’t escape it. I felt ‘Dull’.

I was overwhelmed by my emotions, all of a sudden my mood had changed. It’s that feeling of being overwhelmed which is hardest to deal with, how your mood can change instantly, leaving you too feel out of control. How can our emotions change so quickly? Was it my mind telling me to take things slowly, take some time out and deal with how I was feeling? Maybe, but if it was it sucked. I was enjoying feeling positive and that was just taken away in a second and I was left feeling dull. Dull is the right word to explain how I was feeling, as everything seemed bland, unexciting: food, coffee, Netflix, shopping, walking. All things which I normally enjoy, today seemed dull, lifeless. When you feel like this you don’t feel like doing anything, you feel useless, and it sucks.

But what gets me through these days is having hope that this feeling won’t last forever. I hope tomorrow I will wake up feeling better and life won’t seem so dull. I believe tomorrow I will have control and I will feel better and I accept that for the rest of today life will seem dull, which is okay. I truly believe that it is through the hard times and the challenges which we face, that we become the people we are meant to be. Sometimes we all need to believe in something or have hope for better days.

My hope is that I will overcome this challenge. I might not over come it today or tomorrow, it might take weeks, months or even years. But I know that I will over come this. I have hope that I will overcome this. I have hope that things will be okay and life won’t always seem so dull. I have hope that you will over come your challenges too. So for now be kind to yourself and take the time you need to overcome whatever challenges you are facing. Have hope that tomorrow things will be a little better. Have hope that it will be okay and that this dull feeling will pass.

Adele’s Word.

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Don’t be fake, be honest.

Fake friends, fake smiles, fake happiness. Why do we feel the need to be fake? Why have I spent the day putting on a fake smile and laughing when all I wanted to do was cry and be in bed? Why do we feel the need to hide our feelings? Maybe we think it’s polite, so the other person doesn’t feel awkward. For me today, I wasn’t meaning to pretend to be happy; I was having a good time, but that didn’t matter as deep down I didn’t want to smile. I wanted to be sad, I felt sad. But I couldn’t bring myself to tell my friend, maybe I expected them to pick up on it, but none of us are mind readers, we have to be honest and tell each other how we feel. Yet I didn’t want to tell them how I was feeling because I wanted them to have a good day. I was being fake. Maybe it’s better to fake it sometimes? But is this right? Should we feel like we need to be fake with our closest friends?

Maybe for me I was being fake because I feel like people haven’t been honest with me recently. I’ve been experiencing fake messages and fake friends. I don’t think they have purposely meant to be fake, I think it’s come from a good place and they have had good intentions but it has been fake, their friendship has been fake. Faking they understand, rather than asking, faking they care when they are too caught up in their own lives. I know how easy it is to get caught up in our own lives, we get busy doing nothing and suddenly we realize we haven’t spoken to people for days. I’ve done this plenty of times myself. But when you’re the one who wants a friend and the people you expect to be there for you and message you everyday don’t, it sucks.

I’m not blaming anyone and I’m not saying my friends don’t care because I know they do. I am just as guilty as anyone else, that’s why I wanted to write about this because everyday life is so easy to get caught up in. It’s easy to forget the people who need us. The person who has been quieter than normal or the person who has been trying to reach out. We all need to take a step back and think who needs me, who needs a word or encouragement, a shoulder to cry on or a friend to go out with. Don’t let mundane everyday life get in the way of true friendship. Don’t get so caught up in things that you forget to help the person you care about. Because if you do forget; that person will remember, and when you do finally find time in your busy schedule to message them, it will just come across fake. Just be honest if you have’t been there just explain and say “I’m sorry”. Don’t be fake, think how would you like people to treat you if you were in their situation. Just be honest.

If you love your friends, family and partners then you are there for them, no matter the cost to you. To truly listen to someone isn’t just to message them saying ‘How are you?’ its to say “I’m here and I’m ready to listen whenever you’re ready to talk”. To reassure someone that you’re there for them. Maybe we feel like our friends should know we are there for them, but if we seem busy or to caught up, then that other person can find it hard to want to interrupt our busy life. They might want reassuring that you do care. We all want reassurance from time to time, especially when times are hard.  We all want that person to be there and to understand. We don’t want to feel like a burden in someone’s busy life. So just remember, reassuring someone that you are there for them when times are hard is the best thing you can do.

Take some time to think, “who might need me right now?” Who hasn’t quite seemed themselves lately and take time to reassure them that you are there if something is wrong.

Don’t be Fake, be Honest.

Adele’s Word

XOXO

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