My First Post – It’s okay to be sad.

Getting back on your feet when you’ve been knocked down is harder than it sounds. I think a lot of people don’t know how to talk to someone who says, ‘I’m sad’. When I say the words ‘I’m sad’ everyone’s response seems to be ‘give yourself time’ but how much time is acceptable to give myself. I am currently unemployed living with my brother and his ex girlfriend (yes it is a very strange living situation). I have my friends, boyfriend and family to talk to and support me but in the day when everyone’s at work I have all day by myself, but this isn’t useful time, healing time, this is me trying to do something with my day and trying not to sit in bed watching Netflix all day. Being by myself is nice, I do have time to think, to be sad and I have know one to answer to. However my boyfriend, friends and family don’t see the struggle I’m having or the sadness I feel, I’m not hiding it, I’m not isolating myself, they’re just not here when I’m feeling sad.

It’s not that I want attention or their help really it’s just hard when someone messages you at the end of the day saying ‘What have you done today, How are you feeling?’ and your reply is ‘I haven’t done a lot, just cleaned the house and watched Netflix. I’m feeling a bit down and sad, but I’m okay’. I don’t say this for pity I say it because I am sad and I’m not going to lie about it. But why, when someones say’s ‘I’m sad’ do we always have to reply saying ‘It will be okay’, ‘Things will get better’, ‘Be strong’. These are all very nice replies but it doesn’t actually help someone who is sad because if you are like me then you will know things are going to be okay, you are in fact okay, you’re just sad. Sometimes we need to be sad to be okay again. Right now I don’t want to be ‘Miss Happy Go lucky’ right now I want to be sad, why aren’t I allowed to be sad?

I think sometimes we all need to be sad. It’s not depression, it’s not a mental illness its just life, life sucks. Right now I need to be sad to get over the things which have happened and that’s okay. Right now, while I’m writing this I’m not crying, I’m actually feeling okay but that doesn’t mean I’m not actually sad, deep down I am sad, I’m allowed to be sad. I don’t need fixing, I don’t need to be told it will all be okay because I know that it will be, I am a positive person. But right now I need to be sad and I need everyone to accept that.

Adele’s First Word.

XOXO

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25 thoughts on “My First Post – It’s okay to be sad.

  1. Cheila says:

    Hey there, your post really touched my heart. I’m sad for different reasons, since I have depression but I do understand that sometimes you’re just sad and that’s ok. You need to feel it until it goes away and you feel better. Just cry and let your heart feel what it needs to feel because you deserve that. People don’t understand it unless they feel it, so it’s difficult for others to put themselves in your shoes. If you need to talk to someone who understands sadness, just drop me a line.

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    • Adele's Word says:

      Hey, thank you so much for you comment of support. It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one which feels that way, we all go through hard times and everyone deals with things differently but I just hope people know that it is okay to be sad. I hope you are well and dealing with things the best you can. If you need someone to talk too I’m here for you as well.

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  2. ThisDarlingAdventure says:

    Hi there πŸ™‚ Thank you so much for sharing this. And you are absolutely right. It is perfectly okay to be sad! I am not sure what you are going through right now, but wherever you are in whatever situations you are facing, you got this! But I completely agree, seasons of sadness are totally acceptable and even welcomed. Anyhoo… welcome to blogging! Have a beautiful weekend!

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  3. allthethings3 says:

    Hi Adele, I liked your post. It is okay to just be sad. I think a lot of people just want to say something and that’s a good thing. It’s better than saying nothing in my opinion. I learned that when I lost my first child. People didn’t know what to say and I felt so alone. I consider myself a positive person too but sometimes when I’m sad it does feel like I will never feel better again. I know it’s not true but it feels that way and I like a nice reminder that this too shall pass. We are all so unique in our pain. It’s cool to be able to tell people what we as an individual would prefer. How lucky are we to have the internet at our disposal? Anyway, I’ll just end this now and I’ll say “I’m thinking of you.”

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    • Adele's Word says:

      Hi Allthethings3, Thank you for your comment and support. I’m sorry to hear about your loss and experience of feeling alone. It is always an encouragement when someone does messages you to help you through and remind you of the positive. I 100% agree that our pain and way which we deal with situations is so unique, yet we all have something in common. I’m thinking of you too and sending you best wishes for the future.

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  4. Tamara Bernadette says:

    I completely understand what you’re going through. It was like reading a page from my life. I lost everything and had to live at various family’s homes over a long period of time and it was hard to explain. I cried a lot and I’m not a crying kind of person. I couldn’t understand why I going through so much. I couldn’t get a break for anything. Things just got worse. Many lessons were learned during that dark season. There was a lot that needed to be changed about me that i never saw before. It took a long time because i was stubborn and in denile. But God dealt with me.
    It’s a tough place to be and you go through it alone. Even if you have people to talk to, they don’t get it unless they’ve been through it. I did and still do a lot of journaling to help me. I had a lot of “aha” moments in that process that truly helped me. I wrote a book about some of the things I learned to help other women who are going through this.
    I like your transparency and it will help you in your journey. I wish I had been early on. I was trying to hide because I had no answers to everyone’s questions and opinions about my life. This is a great post. Great job!!

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  5. lifethroughthefire says:

    Hey Adele, great first post.
    Everyone becomes sad and depressed at one time or another. It’s a natural part of life. I know that I’ve spent more than enough time feeling that way in my own life. I think most people just know that there’s not much that they can do to try and make you feel better, so they just offer what they can. It’s great that you don’t pretend to feel something that you don’t, pretend to feel happy when you’re not, etc. I think in life it’s important that we allow ourselves to really feel all of our emotions so that they can pass and we can move on. Eventually, you will find some hobbies, a place of your own and whatever it is that you feel you need to be happy. Unfortunately, there’s no way that I know of that allows us to rush through that stage of grievance. Just know that every time you hit a low, things can only get better and you can use all of this personal reflection and contemplation that you’re doing to make you stronger for the future! Good luck with your blog. I look forward to reading more.

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  6. TheTombRider says:

    Hi Adele! Totally agree with you. In fact I strongly believe that sadness is not only OK, it’s a super important feeling! When I’m sad I realize how much I care about the people I love, sadness sometimes helps me, it makes me feel alive somehow.

    That being said I need to tell you that your blog is amazing! I just started my own and I’m really getting an inspiration from you. Keep this up!

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  7. purpledoorlady says:

    Hey, today it was my sad day. I was feeling low and i cry all day for so many reasons one of them is its been full year I’ve been unemployed . That emptiness, loneliness, feeling that i am not worth anything drives me crazy . After end of the day reading your post i think i did not waste my time at all and it gives me strength to open up . so thank you very much for sad post..; )

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    • Adele's Word says:

      Hey there, I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a sad day but I’m glad to hear that you realise it wasn’t a wasted day and you feel able to open up πŸ™‚ I hope that tomorrow is a better day for you. πŸ™‚ I’m glad my post could help you a little bit. X

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